Steven's Story

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I was born in Hungary under a socialist regime. I was able to leave by applying for a passport to travel to Greece as a tourist. I didn't return home but applied for refugee status and after 6 months in a refugee camp in Greece I came to Australia in 1974 as a refugee.

When I arrived in Australia I stayed in Villawood Immigration Centre, a hostel that helped new arrivals get started in Australia. You were free to come and go when you pleased. At night you could attend free English classes, we were given food and a small amount of pocket money. The maximum stay was 3 months and after that we had to find our own way.

When I left Hungary I decided to cut ties with my family. I was young, ambitious and determined to overcome any difficulties living in Australia. I wanted have a family and provide them with a better future filled with more opportunity. After settling in Australia I started my own business as a pastry chef, got married and had two sons. My sons and I are very close: they mean everything to me.

I live with my eldest son, my younger son lives just down the road.

Several years ago I had an accident at work and lost my eyesight and had to sell my business. Despite this I enjoy living in Australia. When I arrived I spoke very little English but people were friendly. I remember one day one of my work mates invited me to his house for 'tea'. When I arrived I noticed he was setting the table and he said, "Come on, join us" and I said "Don't worry about me, I've eaten. You have your dinner and we can have 'tea' afterwards". I didn't realise that 'tea' in Australia is another word for dinner. I thought he had invited me over for a cup of 'tea'.

In Australia if you attempt to learn the language people respect and accept you more if you are able to get involved in conversation and community life. If you can communicate with people, they accept you. Australian society is very tolerant of people learning to speak the language and willing to give most people a 'fair go'. If you are willing to participate and contribute Australia will provide you with numerous opportunities.

Steven Tarr